marți, 27 decembrie 2011

Time for sharing

Hello everyone. It's been Christmas for 3 days already and for those who know me, they can say I love December. I adoooore watching Christmas movies, romantic holiday ones with Christmas trees and kids laughing. This is a time when sharing has to become a reason for waking up.

Even if I am smiling all the time, even if I am the happiest person on earth since I have an 8 month old son that completed my perfect relationship with my hubby, I just cannot forget those in suffering.

I think of those lying in hospitals beds all over the world, many of them dying without anyone around...I think of children being taken away from their families by God, leaving them in tears and pain...and I just cannot stop wondering: why do people die for Christmas? Can't God be merciful? Why cant He wait for at least December to pass? Does He know He kills hope this way?!...

I may sound evil but I am not. I am a believer but I want to see people happy, to see mothers playing with their kids...I don't want to lose hope in God because He forgot about the miracles. ...

Lately I have read all Fitzgerald family's posts, blogs (Facebook - Fitzgerald cancer fond) ...and I feel i lose a small part of my heart every time I read dad's or mum's posts. Their story is so heart-breaking...can u imagine your life without your child/-dren? I can't...:(

I wish this family the best, may their time of pain and suffering be short and may they be stronger with everyday passing by.

vineri, 16 decembrie 2011

Sickness

Hi everyone.

Today is all about sickness. My baby's...

Like all mothers I am always interested my baby gets the best from doctors even if it costs sometimes much more than we can imagine. But, hey, kids are our hearts, our angels. Everything.

Starting thursday my baby started to develop fever, especially in the evening so that you can't sleep as u maybe imagined few hours ago. Yes, I read a lot about kids care, babies are even more likely to become sick for no reasons. But even if u are educated you find yourself in the situation you don't know how to react. I started to medicate the medicine prescribed for fever and I waited. No sign, 1 hour..2 hours...the nite became day. I kinda slept several minutes in hours. But, who cares?

The next day the same story...the following nite the same...

I don't give medicines to my baby immediately or run to the doctor because I have the impression they all have contracts with medicine companies and they prescribe you different types of pills just that they can gain money from it.

Anyway, it is also known it is not always well to medicate fever with antibiotics in kids because of the possibility that they can develop child's sicknesses and you are not allowed to give any pill if this is the case.

But the 3rd day I called his doctor. She came home, prescribed an antibiotic for tummy fever and I kinda relaxed thinking we're on the good path.

Unfortunately, baby had this morning the highest fever till now so I rushed to his paeditrician and told her the whole story. Of course, she prescribed way different medicines and hopefully, Reuben Christian is going to feel better. As I write, he is sleeping. Thank God. He needs it...I need it :)

The moral of the story: wait and see. You need to know facts, to have information for doctors as they prescribe pills for anything if you don't have all the details. Run to emergency if fever grows...no need to wait!

Have a nice week-end!

miercuri, 7 decembrie 2011

The story of the fish :)

Hi everyone. Havent written in days because i decided to play and talk more with my son as he is 8 months old and i need to communicate all the beauties of the world. We are watching cartoons like "the story of the 3 little pigs" or "jungle book", we listen christmas carrols, it is such a pleasure to have a baby that understands and responds more.
But beside this, i read, i write and i plan lots of things. I have just read "the story of the fish" by garr reynolds, that wrote "presentation zen" and i need to share it with you. It has a nice moral.
"dear garr,
When you talked about cutting text that appears in slides, i remembered a story from my indian childhood.
After Vijay opened his fish store he wrote an announcement " here we sell fresh fish". His father came by and suggeested to Vijay that the word "we" focuses on the seller not on the client so it is not necessary to be written in the sentence. So the text was replaced to "here selling fresh fish".
Next day, Vijay was visited by his brother that suggested he can erase the word "here" because it wasnt useful. Vijay agreed and he replaced the paper with "selling fresh fish".
Then, his sister came by, telling him that the paper should only contain "fresh fish" as it is obviously they are selling, being a store.
Later, his neighbor came by to congratulate him, mentioning that all the passers-by could tell the fish was obviously fresh. Saying the word "fresh" in the announcement it was like wanting to justify yourself for not being sure it is. There was no doubt the fish was fresh. So, now, on the window the announcement contained this message: "fish"
While Vijay was coming back to his store, after a break, he noticed he could identify immediately the fresh fish by its smell, even if from that distance, the announcement could not have been read.
So he realised there was no need on the paper announcement of the word "fish"
"
How was it? Did u get the moral?
I think saying less is more important...
Kisses

joi, 1 decembrie 2011

Happy bday

Hi, its december the 1st and i celebrate two of the most important dates in my life. First is the celebration of my relationship with my husband that started on december 1st 2000, so today we count 11 years of us. If only i knew what an adventure will be starting that day.
For those that dont know how we started, well, i met my husband on 28th of march 2000 but nothing told me i would become his wife then. We saw at his office, then our lives continued like we haven't met at all. On nov 30th i had a problem i heard he might help me out with so i called him, very shy, so we met that day. I discovered he tought about me all this time and he asked me out but i said a lie and hope he didnt get it :) unfortunately in 5 minutes my lie was revealed so i had to accept to meet him once more. He told me he will call me in some days but next day, in the morning he called me and asked me to join him for he wants to tell me some stuff. Well, i went, and he told me his story. He was by far the most honest man ever knew so i think i fell for him that moment. :) thats why i said yes in a second to his question of relationship.
U can guess the story is longer but i only wanted u to know a little. Maybe every year i will post the sequel :)
Anyway, here we are after 11 years, we have our marvelllous yet modest life but God gave me the precioust gift: our son, Reuben Christian whom tomorrow celebrates his 8 months of living :)
The 2nd event that we celebrate today is the national day of Romania, i love this country, i have been out its borders and trust me, there's no place like HOME. Love people, love places and love the opportunity i build on my own here.
Respect, Romania!

marți, 22 noiembrie 2011

Good evening

Good evening, have discovered there were so many viewers today.
Thank everyone for support, I feel a lit bit better now, I thank God for making me stronger after this experience and you, for the emphaty you felt for my situation.
Unfortunately, yesterday, waiting for the neurosurgeon, we stayed on the hospital halls and now baby caught a cold. He has a little fever, his nose is a fountain but he's on treatment.
Good nite!

Call 911

Hello, yesterday was that horrible day when you realized how easy the balance of life can become unequal.
I was getting ready to go out and have some fun with my beautiful son, so I got him dressed but suddenly I saw smth that made me leave my baby alone on the couch for a second. Behind my back he threw himself off the couch...he hit himself so badly he stopped breathing, he was lying on the floor like he was dead. I shook him hard, he got back after few seconds then he stopped breathing again this time longer than before. Of course, I got my hand on the phone.
In Romania emergency number is 112 but I dialed 911, like in USA. I was so confused I even said wrong my address when the officer asked me to, I had no idea what to do after. So I opened a window with baby lying in my arms and waited for ambulance. He got back after few minutes, I nearly fainted for several times but I needed myself to be strong for my angel.
When ambulance came he was active, not like he uses to, but in a better shape than I was. We got to the nearest hospital, he was checked out by a neurosurgeon that told me he is okay, probably was the shock only.
Yesterday was the saddest day if my life. I know it will always be remembered.:(
P.s: take care of yourself!

duminică, 20 noiembrie 2011

To be or not to be...honest?!

Good morning to you all. It's 8,30 am and I woke up in a very meditation mood. :) I only have one question in my mind: to be or not to be honest?
Last days I have written an email to a very big CEO I met at a conference. It was a business meeting, I had this great opportunity to attend it and I am still excited about. There I had the chance to practice my english, French and romanian, of course but the fact I disliked the most - I have understood that with baby comes a new territory. You are connected to a different reality, that of how to do best for your child, how to improve your motherhood skills but that takes you away from environments for grown-ups. I talked with biggest figures in that huge company and I am being proud of my abilities to even say a word knowing myself as the shyest person on Earth.
After that conference everything changed. I have understood I am not just a mommy. I need to be provoked, I need to be able to express myself in different language beside ba-ba-ba, ma-ma-ma, I need to be challenged and with this understanding, I opened a door.
Told you I wrote a mail. Yes, I discovered I am not "trained" for business point of view, I think as a psychologist and for that, well, I don't blame myself. But the CEO wrote me back a business reply and I didn't get it. I read the letter as coming from a newest friend u make and not as a business polite reply. Got the picture? I felt like i had betrayed myself because I didn't know how to interpret the 2 sentences. I was being friendly with the man, which by the way, is so modest, sociable and cute, that only saw in me a woman talking too much for a business meeting :)
Omg, I felt so ashamed when I realized the mistake I did. Business and friends don't belong in the same sentence. Meeting and honesty don't do also.
Hear my conclusion: honesty is not for business meetings. It is never used as an advantage so get rid if that friendly look, battleling eyelashes and emotioned shaking hands. Your look needs to be icy, yet complex. Your tone has to be low, serious and full of meaning itself.
Eh, what the hell, I need to become a business woman to understand this code...
Thank you, mr. CEO!
P.s.: :))

vineri, 18 noiembrie 2011

New book

Hi.
I have started to write a psychological book about a subject it seems to make me meditate lately. I am interested in everything involves celebrities, stars, media, paparazzi, this phenomenon that I call disease already. You can become addicted to finding and searching news about celebrities you love but of the celebrities u hate, too.
At least I am.
So I am writing a book I named it "I want to become a superstar", it has 6 chapters and hopefully in several months I will finish this job.
Are you coming with me in this journey?
:)

luni, 14 noiembrie 2011

Celebs

Lately I've been more active on my twitter (@cristina_cortes) and Facebook (cristina Surugiu) accounts so I kinda received many infos about celebrities. I have begun to be asked to friendship many unknowns and started to be followed by unknowns. It is also true I gained some celebs as friends too, like Neyo, whom I'm biggest fan (for that I created a page on Facebook called "fan Neyo"), Aaron Alexander Reid, whom tweets I adore because they are so full of life :), and the list could really go on and on. I am not a celebrity so imagine what this means to a simple yet complex person that I am. I love tweeting and face booking, I also did a tumbler account for I can see latest news about Neyo. Well, I said, I'm a huge fan of him. :)
I'm writing these things now because i was wondering why people become addicted to social networking, why a new follower improves a life, why a sad mood changes into a happy one after just one RT. For those not knowing me, I've always been interested in meditation, in introspection so I won't change that in me.
I think I have an idea about questions I mentioned before. I think people with different social life then celebritities wonder how is it to be in that situation, and I'm sure, celebrities don't do the vice-versa :) simple persons want to know more about what they can't have and celebrities want to know how are they seen through simple beings point of views. I was happy all nite when I became Facebook neyo's friend probably because I will never have the chance to be a real friend to him. This way of acceptance is a two-way street. U r happy because it seems like u r important to a milion-persons adored VIP then u discover u r just another person in a list...nothing special, nothing extra!

Game over ;)





It's monday

Hi everyone. I just decided to start re-write my ideas as many of you suggested me to do so. I know I am not such an important person to have many creative ideas or to own a blog but what the heck, if Perez Hilton can do it, why can't I? Lol I'm a woman with a smile on my face at every hour of my living, I like what life reserved me till this moment and I can honestly say I don't have regrets. Maybe there are times in our lives when we struggle to succed but we can stand up against dificulties. I am strong. Life in last year and a half changed me dramatically because I gave birth to a star baby Reuben-Christian whom is now the center of the universe. To my husband and I. Well, our families too. I changed the music I used to listen, I changed my point of view regarding superficial ideas and books, music, actors etc. I started to own the Internet. I was blessed with an iPhone 4 and an iPad 2 so I can be online non-stop if I wish that. I am here, forever :) This is for the moment, I will come back after feeding baby. :)